Good morning God and everyone.  I’m writing this after reading a comment by a friend asking me to post more of these on Facebook (I stopped a while ago), and I began to think about why I haven’t.  The reason was because about two years ago I posted a blog post about a conversation I had with someone and they had such a strong negative reaction, that I took it down and stopped sharing my posts.  Whether or not it was right or wrong to post what I did is less of the issue.  The reality is I stopped completely speaking my truth in all situations in order to keep a relationship.  I’m sure this seems strange, because I’m sharing so openly here, but I am seeing places where I was/am still hiding.  I feel some fear even writing this.  God, how do I heal this?

“Good morning my love.  You saw on that day that you abandoned your self for someone else.  This is actually what most people do – this is what society teaches – as we are scared to be alone, in thought or in companionship.  We are taught that taking care of others, listening to others over our selves is love.  You have to see that abandoning your Self for anyone or anything is equal to death.  You know this as you know what this death feels like.  This is why the first canvas I wrote to you says:

“Don’t care what anyone thinks about you.  Remember who you are.”

But I do care! 

Diane, I’m not talking about caring about others, I’m talking about caring about their opinions. That is the trap.  Their opinion may or may not align with your truth.  They may have information that is valuable to you.  But for you to care about their opinion just because someone you care about has an opinion, is a trap.  This is the abandonment.  This is where insane beliefs get handed down through generations. This is where the fears of the ancestors are transmitted through families to children with no rhyme or reason.  This is how people get stuck living lives based on their parents/partners/children’s expectations and needs and not from who they truly are.  Is it any surprise why depression, anxiety, and suicide are so prevalent?  As I mentioned, the abandonment of one’s Self is equal to death.  

What is hard is that for many people, caring about and doing what others think, is love.  And this is another trap.  Being who you are is where the source of all love exists for everyone.  From here you love authentically without compromising your Self and actually the other.  In order to change these dynamics, someone has to disrupt the pattern and say no.  As you know, this is difficult.  And as you know, you could not always do it.  But all there is, is now, so as you move through your day, notice where you have choices.  Then ask your self what honors who you truly are? 

This will take some courage as there may be some reactions from those who are caught in the “self abandonment for others is love” trap.  But the only way out is to stop participating.  This is how you truly love yourself and everyone.

Love, God”

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Copyright, Diane Dandeneau, 2014

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